A mother’s pride…
While I always looked forward to my kids progressing to the next stage of crawl-walk-talk-go-to-school, the fact that they’d become “adults” one day was something I didn’t think about, it was so far away in the future, but (here’s the strange part and I don’t know how it happened) my daughter, the sweet little girl who believed in fairies and filled our house with magic, stories and laughter suddenly grew up, and got married a few weeks ago.
We all love our daughter’s partner. E is thoughtful, kind, highly intelligent, has a great sense of humor, loves animals, and loves and respects our daughter as we’d hoped someone would love and respect her.
I had no idea that the “mother of the bride” would be such an emotional, beautiful, and happy experience. I thought I’d just buy a new outfit, or two, meet my daughter’s future mother-in-law, spend the week helping do last-minute chores, and try not to cry at the wedding.
Of course there were many chores, but some chores – like getting your nails done - are fun. We both chose a French manicure.
It was a small, simple wedding – actually it was complex and layered with meaning, but not flamboyant or splashy. The kids wrote their own ceremony, framed by heartfelt vows, and candid sincere declarations of their love and loyalty to each other. I was thankful I’d put a hankie in Mr F’s pocket.
My favorite photo of the wedding is the one below: our beautiful daughters (accompanied by the minister in the black and white dress) entering the marriage canopy where us three parents welcomed them. Oh man, I thought my heart would burst with pride and joy!
Mr F painted six silk banners for the wedding canopy. Each one of the leaves is individually painted, accurate and true to scale, and yes those are hummingbirds and dragonflies.
Mr F also enlisted the help of a friend to grow herbs and vegetables in four plant pots which would hold the four upright poles of the wedding canopy.
We’re at a wedding, it’s time for some music.
Dixie Chicks – Lullaby – Released 2005-2006 @ Label Columbia Nashville
They catered the affair themselves, with help from friends and relatives.
My daughter’s mother-in-law flew across the continent with
boxes of cake pans and baking supplies. She made all the cakes in the picture below including the wedding cake in the middle, and the heart-shaped “vegan” carrot cake [which Mr F and I voted the best carrot cake ever - I'll ask her if I can share her recipe].
Mr F made ceviche. He used a recipe for “half a dozen people round our dinner table” and multiplied all the ingredients by ten. It was so complicated I don’t know how he managed to orchestrate it all – he even worked out how to keep it cool in bowls of ice. The finished product was voted *perfect* by his daughter.
What did I contribute? The fruit salad. Hey, I’m not a cook. I gave one of the speeches, which I found challenging as guests at a wedding don’t want to hear about the birth, or her first tooth, or the wonderful (XXX) whatever she did…but as the mother of the bride that’s all I wanted to share.
The happy couple…
I could easily have stopped my post right here. The couple is happily married, the wedding was wonderful, I’m so proud of my new title “Mother-in-Law”.
Unfortunately it breaks my heart to tell you that my beautiful daughter’s marriage is not legal in the United States.
She got married in Canada, which is one of the few countries where same-sex marriage is legal.
My heartfelt thank you to the eleven countries** that have legalized same-sex marriage.
- the Netherlands (2000),
- Belgium (2003),
- Canada (2005),
- Spain (2005),
- South Africa (2006),
- Norway (2009), Sweden (2009),
- Argentina (2010), Iceland (2010), and
- Portugal (2010).
- Denmark (2012)
- Gay couples are allowed to wed in parts of Brazil and Mexico.